Initial_back_and_forth_AL_Job.pdf
Kim giving me updates about her pursuit of a job in Alabama.
Kim Seeks Affidavit from Dr. James
Despite having been terminated from therapy by Dr. James for her dishonesty and manipulation, Kim reaches out to Dr. James asking for an affidavit stating that he has knowledge of an agreement that Kim and I had about moving to Minnesota. The problem with this request is: She terminated from therapy and was told to…
Phone Call 10/16/2020
A phone call following Kim’s recent (same day) progression with her mortgage. Now that she had an additional level of borrowing approval, she gets bolder and makes demands about her plans to take the children to St. Paul. [[ AUDIO ]] Need to cut into clips – file is too big.
Phone Calls RE: Custody on 9/14/2020
In our weekly call regarding the children, Kim starts her campaign to break the 50/50 arrangement that we had been operating under. She employs the various manipulative tactics that are seen throughout our interactions. Audio Summary Start Time Kim starts “primary caregiver” argument 02:40 Schools, etc. Including recap of past conversations. 14:11 Related: Kim’s Request…
Conversations Following “Wellness Check” Text From Dr. James
Dr. James sends a “wellness check” text, which among other things asked that this “new narrative of abuse” not take hold before he had a chance to clinically diagnose it. I was taken aback by the mention of abuse, and asked Kim about it. After “assurances” that she had no idea what he was talking…
Kim Springs Her Plan to Move to Birmingham in Last Joint Session with Dr. James
Background We had been discussing plans to move to Minnesota as a part of this divorce. We had been discussing what timing would be best for the kids. We had disagreements about things, most notably how to determine the locale for the two houses that would be good for the kids, and acceptable to both…
Kim Reveals Her Plans to Move w/ Kids to Alabama
In a joint session with Dr. James, Kim reveals the plan she’d been hatching for months, to take a job in Birmingham, Alabama and take the kids with her. In this session, she revealed this plan, with bright red lipstick on, and a smile from ear to each (which I first thought was odd, then…
Dinner with Minnesota Friends
We had dinner with a couple from Minnesota who had been staying with us for the weekend. We discussed a number of things, including plans for moving back to Minnesota. Kim’s Comments on Schools in the Twin Cities: She says the schools in the Minneapolis and St. Paul, are “just shit.” When our friend says,…
Outline of My Concerns with Kim’s Personality and Parenting
By October 2019, Kim and I had made the decisions to “de-couple.” Until this point, I had to “hold back” my objections to Kim as a parent (or as a partner), because she had made it perfectly clear that she was willing to let a little spat escalate into a justifiable reason to breakup a household with two small children. I had conceded that I wouldn’t be happy with her as a partner, but was not going to personally allow “silly” arguments be the cause of a broken home for my two kids.
Below is an email to Dr. James that outlined some of my concerns with Kim as a parent, as a partner, and just as a decent person. I called out the use of profanity as a concern around the children, something that I had brought up a number of times. Just days later, that documented concern would come to a head when our 3yr old daughter corrected me to say “What the Fuck?” instead of “What in the world?”
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Kim Hires Melinda Pillow – without Discussion
Kim retains Mindy, without discussion of entering legal arena, continues to talk about cooperative/collaborative separation, and potentially moving to MN. From this point on, we are having one conversation about plans for the future, while Kim is making alternative plans and is telling mutual friends (including my sister-in-law) about her plans which contradict what she’s…
20200219_separation_basement.pdf
“separation arrangement is not working for me – I thought you would take some clothes and toiletries to the basement, and we wouldn’t see each other when we’re not with the kids.”