In a joint session with Dr. James, Kim reveals the plan she’d been hatching for months, to take a job in Birmingham, Alabama and take the kids with her. In this session, she revealed this plan, with bright red lipstick on, and a smile from ear to each (which I first thought was odd, then disturbing).

I asked how she could be so happy at this prospect that she about to break up the family and force the kids to go through a separation of their parents. Her response was, “because I’m no longer beholden to your timeline.”

This didn’t make any sense, which I told her. “It’s not my timeline, what we’ve discussed thus far is a schedule for making plans for moving to Minnesota, and a schedule that would be best for the kids – to get them settled and acclimated before a formal pre-k session started for Rowan in the fall. Again, so how can you be happy that you’re proposing to force this disruption to the kids’ lives?”

She just reiterated verbatim, “because I’m no longer beholden to your timeline.”

This plan was disrupted by COVID, but was only delayed. She continued to communicate her intentions to move to Alabama with the kids, whether I liked it or not. She continued to communicate her intentions to move to Alabama even after she moved out of the marital residence in April, 2020. We communicated weekly about the kids, and she would use this to provide updates, which I believed she’d later use as evidence of my support for her plan. I had to explicitly tell her to stop providing updates regarding Alabama, because I was not in agreement with it.

She continued to maintain this Alabama plan until mid-September, she she re-ran the same playbook from February, but this time changing the destination to Minnesota:

1. Create a false sense of urgency
2. Misconstrue past conversations and facts around the issue
3. Create confrontation so that the matter could not be discussed
4. Oscillate between extreme positions of bully/victim, often in the same conversation
5. Make threats against non-compliance with her demands
6. Attempt to manipulate me and everyone around her using that person’s virtues against them: projecting guilt/shame, pitty, honor, empathy; whatever she could. (She used a neighbor’s leukemia-stricken 2yr old niece as a way to manipulate her in attempting to get her to provide an affidavit supporting her ‘primary caregiver’ status)

She believed that she could get away with this because she would be claiming to be the “primary caregiver,” a claim that didn’t hold up to the slightest scrutiny, so I was not too concerned about her basing this attempted move on something so easily disproven.

I later came to find out what she was intending to do – manipulate neighbors into backing this claim, and then making flat-out false statements under oath about the division of child-rearing responsibilities in our family up to that point. I gathered the data (credit card receipts to doctor appointments, historical map data showing I took them to and from daycare, etc.). This was going to be the basis of her creating separation between the kids and me – regardless of how that separation was going to be executed.  None of my refuting data was seen or heard, and Kim’s claim’s of being the “primary caregiver” apparently was taken at face value in the emergency hearing.

TODO:

• Links to media:
  • 2/17 audio of Kim outlining her plan
  • Link to Leslie’s text
  • Link to hospital records (and summary)
  • Link to email with Kim giving Alabama updates.
  • Add the email that Kim sent asking to coordinate plans to move to MN in late December.
  • Review the gain of facts from right before the March 9th hearing that didn’t take place