email_after_convo_re_sleeping_arrangement.pdf
Email from Kim on Dec 27th 2019, asking that we go to Dr. James office to discuss details around moving to MN, among other references to Dr. James office being a “safe space.” The very next session is on Feb 14th, and when she gets caught trying to insert this new “verbal abuse” narrative. Over…
2019_11_03_20_25_08.mp3
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2019_10_31_17_15.mp3
Audio of Kim using profanity around kids, right after bringing it up as an issue, and right before Rowan used “What the fuck?”
Phone Call 10/16/2020
A phone call following Kim’s recent (same day) progression with her mortgage. Now that she had an additional level of borrowing approval, she gets bolder and makes demands about her plans to take the children to St. Paul. [[ AUDIO ]] Need to cut into clips – file is too big.
Phone Calls RE: Custody on 9/14/2020
In our weekly call regarding the children, Kim starts her campaign to break the 50/50 arrangement that we had been operating under. She employs the various manipulative tactics that are seen throughout our interactions. Audio Summary Start Time Kim starts “primary caregiver” argument 02:40 Schools, etc. Including recap of past conversations. 14:11 Related: Kim’s Request…
Conversations Following “Wellness Check” Text From Dr. James
Dr. James sends a “wellness check” text, which among other things asked that this “new narrative of abuse” not take hold before he had a chance to clinically diagnose it. I was taken aback by the mention of abuse, and asked Kim about it. After “assurances” that she had no idea what he was talking…
Kim Springs Her Plan to Move to Birmingham in Last Joint Session with Dr. James
Background We had been discussing plans to move to Minnesota as a part of this divorce. We had been discussing what timing would be best for the kids. We had disagreements about things, most notably how to determine the locale for the two houses that would be good for the kids, and acceptable to both…
Use of Profanity Around the Children
After having repeated discussions about our difference of opinion regarding the use of profanity around children, and making no headway with Kim, I brought the issue to Dr. James to see if he had an opinion, and he could either give me another perspective, or gain some ground with Kim. Until that point, when I…
Outline of My Concerns with Kim’s Personality and Parenting
By October 2019, Kim and I had made the decisions to “de-couple.” Until this point, I had to “hold back” my objections to Kim as a parent (or as a partner), because she had made it perfectly clear that she was willing to let a little spat escalate into a justifiable reason to breakup a household with two small children. I had conceded that I wouldn’t be happy with her as a partner, but was not going to personally allow “silly” arguments be the cause of a broken home for my two kids.
Below is an email to Dr. James that outlined some of my concerns with Kim as a parent, as a partner, and just as a decent person. I called out the use of profanity as a concern around the children, something that I had brought up a number of times. Just days later, that documented concern would come to a head when our 3yr old daughter corrected me to say “What the Fuck?” instead of “What in the world?”
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Kim Hires Melinda Pillow – without Discussion
Kim retains Mindy, without discussion of entering legal arena, continues to talk about cooperative/collaborative separation, and potentially moving to MN. From this point on, we are having one conversation about plans for the future, while Kim is making alternative plans and is telling mutual friends (including my sister-in-law) about her plans which contradict what she’s…