Brad Learns of Kim’s Secret Plans for Taking a Job in Alabama
I learned of Kim communicating her intention to “surprise me,” with plans that she’d already have solidified for moving to Alabama for a job, despite no mention of this to me, and continuing to openly communicate our agreed upon plan for moving to Minnesota. Which, included Kim telling neighbors and friends before we had agreed…
Kim Starts Looking for Jobs in Alabama
While communicating to me that we are pressing forward with our plans for moving to Minnesota, she was secretly trying to get a job in Alabama. She communicated this to a number of people, including neighbors, and my own family members, all with the same either sentiment or explicit statement to “fuck Brad, because it was…
Guardian ad Litem
Justification for needing GAL: Opinions of Dr. Thomas and Dr. James Kim’s demonstrated willingness to use children for her leverage, w/o regard for their welfare: Motion for GaL came out – threaten to take kids to MN (Mindy’s response) Newman COVID Questionable Parenting Oliver in girls’ clothes General Mental Health concerns TBI Constant dishonesty and…
Narrative (outlline) of Events Leading up To Divorce
Leading into Divorce Starting in late 2018, early 2019 Kim starts “I don’t know if I want to continue this marriage…” Feb sale of house Cancer scare in march April start new job May beach vacation issue The sale of the MN house, and discovery that she had “walked away” with the money from the…
Kim’s Financial Picture
Kim responded to the discovery request with her financial picture (mostly). For the documents that she did produce, this is the financial picture that she is sharing. Debt BANK BAL LIMIT % CREDIT USED MIN PMT APR FEES (CURRENT) INT $ (CURRENT) Firefly $ 9,562.93 $ 10,000.00 95.63 $ 191.00 8.49 $ 20.31 $ …
Kim Seeks Affidavit from Dr. James
Despite having been terminated from therapy by Dr. James for her dishonesty and manipulation, Kim reaches out to Dr. James asking for an affidavit stating that he has knowledge of an agreement that Kim and I had about moving to Minnesota. The problem with this request is: She terminated from therapy and was told to…
Phone Call 10/16/2020
A phone call following Kim’s recent (same day) progression with her mortgage. Now that she had an additional level of borrowing approval, she gets bolder and makes demands about her plans to take the children to St. Paul. [[ AUDIO ]] Need to cut into clips – file is too big.
Phone Call – 09/16/2020
Corresponding to _______ in the mortgage application process.
Phone Calls RE: Custody on 9/14/2020
In our weekly call regarding the children, Kim starts her campaign to break the 50/50 arrangement that we had been operating under. She employs the various manipulative tactics that are seen throughout our interactions. Audio Summary Start Time Kim starts “primary caregiver” argument 02:40 Schools, etc. Including recap of past conversations. 14:11 Related: Kim’s Request…
Kim Communicating Updates About Alabama Job (May, 2020)
On May 14th, Kim is communicating her progress in her plan to move with the kids to Alabama. I asked her to stop giving me these updates, so that I didn’t appear to be complicit with this decision, because I was not. I asked that these kinds of decisions relating to the kids be documented…
Kim Gets Terminated from Therapy (5/9/2020)
In the email thread relating to issues around discussions of moving (focused on Kim’s updates re: her attempts to move w/ kids to Alabama), Kim continues her narrative of “verbal abuse,” that she started in a therapy session on 2/14. Unbeknownst to me, she was trying to juggle two lies at the same time, and…
Civility in Social Media
Kim goes on campaign to start manipulating the narrative on social media, often in pretty gross ways.
Conversations Following “Wellness Check” Text From Dr. James
Dr. James sends a “wellness check” text, which among other things asked that this “new narrative of abuse” not take hold before he had a chance to clinically diagnose it. I was taken aback by the mention of abuse, and asked Kim about it. After “assurances” that she had no idea what he was talking…
Kim Springs Her Plan to Move to Birmingham in Last Joint Session with Dr. James
Background We had been discussing plans to move to Minnesota as a part of this divorce. We had been discussing what timing would be best for the kids. We had disagreements about things, most notably how to determine the locale for the two houses that would be good for the kids, and acceptable to both…
Kim Reveals Her Plans to Move w/ Kids to Alabama
In a joint session with Dr. James, Kim reveals the plan she’d been hatching for months, to take a job in Birmingham, Alabama and take the kids with her. In this session, she revealed this plan, with bright red lipstick on, and a smile from ear to each (which I first thought was odd, then…
Kim Asking to Discuss Details of Moving to Minnesota on December 29th, 2019
Email from Kim on Dec 27th 2019, asking that we go to Dr. James office to discuss details around moving to MN, among other references to Dr. James office being a “safe space.” The very next session is on Feb 14th, and when she gets caught trying to insert this new “verbal abuse” narrative. Over…
Kim Discussing Head Trauma (11/08/2019 Dinner w/Friends)
At a dinner with friends visiting from Minnesota, Kim discusses her loss of smell due to a recent head trauma. She doesn’t know how it happened, just that she “woke up naked on the bed with her head bleeding,” and hasn’t regained her sense of smell since. She tells her friend how she’s “nearly burned…
Dinner with Minnesota Friends
We had dinner with a couple from Minnesota who had been staying with us for the weekend. We discussed a number of things, including plans for moving back to Minnesota. Kim’s Comments on Schools in the Twin Cities: She says the schools in the Minneapolis and St. Paul, are “just shit.” When our friend says,…
Use of Profanity Around the Children
After having repeated discussions about our difference of opinion regarding the use of profanity around children, and making no headway with Kim, I brought the issue to Dr. James to see if he had an opinion, and he could either give me another perspective, or gain some ground with Kim. Until that point, when I…
Outline of My Concerns with Kim’s Personality and Parenting
By October 2019, Kim and I had made the decisions to “de-couple.” Until this point, I had to “hold back” my objections to Kim as a parent (or as a partner), because she had made it perfectly clear that she was willing to let a little spat escalate into a justifiable reason to breakup a household with two small children. I had conceded that I wouldn’t be happy with her as a partner, but was not going to personally allow “silly” arguments be the cause of a broken home for my two kids.
Below is an email to Dr. James that outlined some of my concerns with Kim as a parent, as a partner, and just as a decent person. I called out the use of profanity as a concern around the children, something that I had brought up a number of times. Just days later, that documented concern would come to a head when our 3yr old daughter corrected me to say “What the Fuck?” instead of “What in the world?”
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Kim Sharing w/ Others Her Alabama Plans
While we were discussing (and maintaining disagreements about) the details regarding our plans to move everyone to Minnesota as a part of the divorce process, Kim was telling many people (other than Brad) about plans she was making to try get a job in Birmingham, Alabama. Everyone who eventually told me about this, all included…
Kim Hires Melinda Pillow – without Discussion
Kim retains Mindy, without discussion of entering legal arena, continues to talk about cooperative/collaborative separation, and potentially moving to MN. From this point on, we are having one conversation about plans for the future, while Kim is making alternative plans and is telling mutual friends (including my sister-in-law) about her plans which contradict what she’s…
Brad and Kim Discuss Divorce and Moving to Minnesota
Brad and Kim realize the path forward would include divorce, and start talking about how to best plan for this for the children. Below is a summary of events related to this discussion as it related to moving to Minnesota. Brad and Kim Agree that Minnesota is the Logical Place to Move After discussion, Brad…
Brad Takes Job at Freddie Mac
Brad takes a job with Freddie Mac, because his role at Travelport required him to be in Atlanta. As Director of Systems Engineering, he had to be near the datacenter that runs the infrastructure he was responsible for. An opportunity came up with Freddie Mac, and the position was one of an individual contributor. In…
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